GO for the RING, not a CONDOM: DEDICATED to UNWIND HLM Young Pro's

You ought to be FREE!
“a RING in the future will let you be bound honorably”

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UNWIND:  "Go for the RING, not a CONDOM"

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God has declared:   Not good for a MAN to be alone!  (see Genesis)

But boy, what a tragedy for a BOY and GIRL left all alone together!
  
WHO THEN IS A MAN?
He has MATURITY in aspects of:

• emotions,
• attitude, 
• finances, 
• physique, 
• mentality 
• and PURELY TESTED!

WHO THEN IS A WOMAN?

• A person who can SAY ... NO, WAIT, LETS PRAY,  LETS GIVE IT TIME,NO ... NOT YET, 
• NOW IS THE TIME!  (only a woman can discern this!)

remember TRAGEDIES happen when you leave a BOY and a GIRL alone!
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The Love Triangle IDEA:
MAN WOMAN GOD

Marriage is God’s Idea
God loves you and me and wants us to enjoy life!
God is author of this.

Man and Woman must consult the AUTHOR ….

WHEN TO “FALL in LOVE?”

• When YOU KNOW IT IS true love!
• That is why there is a DARE here!
• A DARE to REAL AND TRUE LOVE!
• Romance is not LOVE.
• Sex is not LOVE.

I love you … most of the time IS NOT LOVE!
IT IS LOVE ME … NOT LOVE YOU!

OK … what is LOVE?

• A commitment!  (THEREFORE GO FOR MARRIAGE)
• A protection!  (THEREFORE DO NOT GO TO BED BEFORE YOUR WEDDING)
• An honor!  (THEREFORE YOU HAVE TO PUT YOUR UNDERWEAR ON ... ALWAYS!)
• A gift to celebrate at the right time!  (GO FOR ENGAGEMENT!)

a JOB DESCRIPTION for a Pastor for Youth [YX] and Singles:

• to TEACH love.
• to MODEL love.

Since UNWIND is composed of LEADERS in the marketplace and in secular business, you must by God’s power and grace DARE OTHERS TO KNOW WHAT LOVE REALLY IS!  The TRUE Love, REAL Love, Holy LOVE, JESUS Love :-)

• LOVE is more of an ACTION … than an EMOTION!

Emotions may come and go …
Love stays!
Love commits!
Love remits!


HOW NOT TO FALL?

• By knowing all the time THAT YOU CAN FALL!
• By surrounding your HEART with GOD’S FAVOR!  (most of the time … it is to please others … follow hollywood … impress self)
• BY NOT RUSHING LOVE!

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The purpose of that FIRE within you …
is to SET IT ABLAZE in the context of commitment …

If not … it will have a great BANG … then a disaster follow.

It should be in a BIG BANG … protected by marriage!

The best way to be against

PREMARITAL SEX
ABORTION
PROMISCUITY

Is to be married … not to be in a situation where you will HIDE … BUT where you can be publicly celebrated!!!
WILL YOU allow God to write your LOVE Story?

Will you surrender to HIM first as MASTER?

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While young …and SINGLE ...
    build build build!

• BUILD A NETWORK …
• BUILD EXPERIENCES …
• BUILD CONTACTS … using your money!
• PASS Life to Others.
• FAST
• THINK
• LINK

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Warning ... (article below is borrowed):
The Two Types of Men
When it comes to relationships, I believe there are basically two types of men: protectors and predators.

I’ll describe each.

PROTECTORS
As the name implies, a protector is interested in protecting the heart, purity, and reputation of any woman he is in a relationship with.  He wants to postpone sex until marriage, and his actions prove it.

A protector puts her needs before his own.  The woman in his life feels completely safe: she feels loved, honored and at peace with her own conscience.

 PREDATORS
A predator is not safe to be with.                      
He is primarily interested in his own wants, and women are simply a means to that end.

A predator can be charming,  smooth, persuasive, and manipulative—after all, he must carefully disguise his true nature and intentions.  He seeks his own gratification, indifferent to the harm he causes.
Sooner or later, the woman in his life loses: she loses her innocence, self-respect, and maybe more.   

Ladies, what kind of men are you choosing? 
Men, what kind of man are you choosing to be?

Tip:
Don’t be preoccupied with a MATE. (that’s the way the world thinks and acts)

Be preoccupied with GOD’s ASSIGNMENT. (that’s what a disciple does)

He is the one doing something at the BACKGROUND … preparing, curing, cooking, brewing the best for you!  The finest is coming!

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EDITORIAL / NEWS ... FUNNY
Pinays prefer ugly, rich husbands
This seems to be true for a majority of Filipino women who prefer to marry for money rather than looks, according to a survey by the Social Weather Stations (SWS) released yesterday.
The pre-Valentine survey showed 51 percent of Filipino women wouldn’t mind marrying a rich but ugly man.
This means the remaining 46 percent would rather marry a good-looking guy even if he were poor.

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mmm2: Designed for Families

• mmm2 is designed for FAMILIES to be united.
• mmm2 is designed for COUPLES who wants to leave a mark upon their children and their Children's children.
• mmm2 is founded on the MMM Principle (the ORIGINAL LOVE idea BASED from the Book of Beginnings [GENESIS]) -- my opinion :-) .... you've got to read MMM first.

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if MMM -- Master Mission Mate is for Students and Young Professionals, WHAT'S for COUPLES and Families?

mmm2 is it!

mmm2

• Master = 1st and Foremost (The Lordship of Jesus Christ) 
• Mate and Family = Next in Line (They are God's Gifts) 
• Mission = Together in the Vision (They are Ambassadors Together)

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random thoughts below ... just explore it yourself ...

from my personal notes on MMM ... Pastor JR here :-)

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"I personally believe that one of the JOB DESCRIPTON of a YOUTH Pastor or Leader is to teach godly & Holy Sex Education to his congregation and live it before their eyes ..." Pastor JR


"don't walk what you preach ... rather preach what you walk"

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Wisdom Says …

“It is wise to learn from experience and much wiser to learn from the experiences of  others”

"Don't leave that girl or boy without any godly reason and a desire to serve God and others
    YOU WILL JUST BE DEPRESSED!"  In fact that's why most young people enter this
    boyfriend - girlfriend business because they are depressed and bored in life!

IF YOU LEAVE WITHOUT GOD'S LEADING FOR YOU TO SERVE HIM YOU WILL
    JUST END UP WITH ANOTHER GIRL OR BOY ALONG THE ROAD OF ROMANCE.
    Remember romance is never love and love is never romance! 
    It is just a part of it -- and it must better be in marriage and marriage alone, or at least when you     are seriously thinking of entering marriage!

DON'T PLAY MARRIAGE if you are not yet married!

If you are doing something in the Kingdom of God, you will not be BORED!  (NEVER!!!)
    You will sleep with it ...
    You will talk about it ...
    You will eat with it ...
    You will dream it ...
    You will pray for it ...
    You will have disciples around it ...
    Do the works of God!  "... he who wins souls is wise" (Proverbs 11:30)

The point of MMM is not that you will have NO GIRLFRIEND or NO BOYFRIEND
    and do nothing or being idle
    BUT
    if you have a girlfriend / boyfriend you LAY THEM ASIDE for they are DISTRACTIONS.
    They would lessen your FOCUS … worse YET if they are your FOCUS-INSPIRATION instead     of God.
    Do not use them FOR GOD!  Be WITH GOD 1ST!

You should be possessed by the CALL of God to lead others, to pray for others and save some!
    Therefore you even to a point leave these special people behind for a higher call in the Lord Jesus Christ. God makes beautiful everything in His Time.  Do not force the issue yet. Do not be a grabber … be a “surrenderer”!



Master-Mission-Mate is about SURRENDER!

• Remember The Isaac Principle (lay it at the altar)

    “When they arrived at the place where God had told Abraham to go, he built an altar and placed the wood on it. Then he tied Isaac up and laid him on the altar over the wood.”   (Genesis 22:9)

• Remember The King David Principle (I will not offer anything that costs me nothing)

    “But the king replied to Araunah, “No, I insist on buying it, for I cannot present burnt offerings     to the LORD my God that have cost me nothing.”  So David paid him fifty pieces of silver for the     threshing floor and the oxen.”   (2 Samuel 24:24)

• Remember The Jesus Principle (I am to do my Father’s Business)

    “But why did you need to search?” he asked. “You should have known that I would be in my     Father’s house.”  But they didn’t understand what he meant.”   (Luke 2:49, 50)

• Remember The Eunuch Principle (choosing not to marry for the Kingdom of God)

     “Some are born as eunuchs, some have been made that way by others, and some choose not to marry for the sake of the Kingdom of Heaven. Let anyone who can, accept this statement.”   (Matthew 19:12)

•   Remember The Paul principle (Live a Celibate Life / Have A Wife or Husband)

    “Now about the questions you asked in your letter.  Yes, it is good to live a celibate life.  But     because there is so much sexual immorality, each man should have his own wife, and each woman should have her own husband.”   (1 Corinthians 7:1,2)

THE PRINCIPLE OF SACRIFICE -- admitting that something is costly YET THE CALL IS COSTLIER!

Not good for a man to be alone!
    But boy, what a tragedy for a boy and girl left all alone together!

Leave that girlfriend / boyfriend  if she / he could not live first alone in God and what she / he wants is only you by her / his side!
    God will give you a wife who will say till death do us part!
    God will give you a husband who will cling for richer or for poorer!

FOR Students and Singles
    Master = 1st and Foremost
    Mission = Next in Life
    Mate = Gift from God

FOR Family People (coming soon ....)

    Master = 1st and Foremost

    Mate and Family = Next in Line (The Gifts of God)

    Mission = Together in the Vision

"I personally believe that one of the JOB DESCRIPTION of a YOUTH Pastor is to teach
    Godly & Holy Sex Education to his congregation and live it before their eyes" 
    (Pastor JR)

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Master Mission Mate (Advanced)
God's Choice, My Choice or My Choice God's Choice?  
(MMM for Young Single Professionals)

• Implies  that you have responsibly obeyed God's moral standards to a point that you have reached freedom of choosing things in life which includes even your Mate.  This is having the "mind of Christ" in you! 

• This requires strict adherence to:

  (1)  Biblicalness of your Standards.
  (2)  Holiness unto the Lord.
  (3)  Prayerfulness.
  (4)  Spirit-filledness.
  (5)  Humbleness.
  (6)  Total Embracing of God's Desires in General!

As John MacArthur said in his book "FOUND:  God's Will", 
"You can do anything you want to do after being sure of the following personal experiences:

  (1)  You are Saved (A Child of God and thus having Special Privileges).
  (2)  You are Sanctified (Holy in your Heart, Mind and Will).
  (3)  You are Surrendered (Doing the basic Christian Disciplines of a Disciple).
  (4)  You are Spirit-filled! (walking in the Holy Spirit of God evidenced by His Fruit)
   
Have you reached this point in your life that you are doing the ways of God -- therefore godly? 
That you are thinking the "thoughts of God" -- therefore in obedience to Philippians 4:8?

• That you are loving the ways of God -- therefore, holy? 

• That you are mastered by the Word of God -- therefore, prophetic -- moving in accordance to the "rhema" of God? 

• That you are consumed with His Cause - therefore a man or woman of faith?

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supplementary
borrowed from Jaron Ministries)

Immorality in ANCIENT Times

    Greece - We keep prostitues for pleasure, we keep mistresses for the
                   day-to-day needs of the body ..." (Demosthenes of ancient Greece)
    Rome - Women married to be divorced and divorced to be married
                     (Seneca of ancient Rome)

Immorality in MODERN Times

"Sexual activity has increased among American adolescents since the early 1970's. 
National statistics show the average age at first sexual intercourse is 17 for females
and 16 for males. 

By age 20, three out of four females (3 out of 4) and five out of six males (5 out of  6)
                    have had sexual intercourse at least once.
                    One in six (1 in 6) fifteen year old boys and one in twenty (1 in 20) 15
                    year old girls have had sexual intercourse. 
(Source:  C. Brandis adn R. Jeremy, Adolescent Pregnancy and Parenting in California: 
A Strategic Plan for Action, University of California at San Francisco, 1988).

Kinsey Report is quoted as saying,
"It is time to admit that incest need not to be perversion or a symptom of mental illness ... Incest between ... children and adults ... can be beneficial." 

Sadly, the problem is epidemic among our Christian youth, as well.

The following statistics concerning the sexual activity of "church youth" are taken from
the executive summary report of the Teen Sex Survey In the Evangelical Church
(Josh McDowell Ministry, 1987, p. 3):

By age 13 -- 20%  of church youth have engaged in fondling
                            and / or sexual intercourse

By age 16 -- 53 %  of church youth have engaged in fondling
                            and / or sexual intercourse

By age 18 -- 65 %  of church youth have engaged in fondling
                            and / or sexual intercourse

By age 18 -- 43 %  of church youth have experienced sexual intercourse.
36 %  were not able to state that sexual intercourse was unacceptable
            before marriage.

68 % attended at least one "R" rated film within the last 6 months

10% attended at least one "X" rated film within the last 6 months

73 % stated they got "A LITTLE" or "NONE" of their
information about sex from the CHURCH


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The Master, Mission, Mate PRINCIPLE is all about RELATIONSHIPS.

• godly guided relationships.
• glued for life relationships.
• great marriages prepared for the future. 

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THE MATE LIFE 
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    = This is a blessing always in the Bible (Go and Multiply was said joyfully after each blessing!)
    = God is the originator of this -- This is God's Idea!  Marriage is God’s idea.
    = This is one of life most important decision one has to face after the decision to be Saved in Christ!
    = One wrong turn equals —  marital misery, loss of faith, loss of conviction, defeat, condemnation
    = Know and commit to this principle:  The best time to "select "a mate is before you "fall in love". 
        (Have a Non-Negotiable List before you fall in love!)

• "BELIEVE THAT GOD IS just a "LITTLE WISER" THAN YOU ARE, therefore much more dependable!""
• FINISH THE FIRST THINGS FIRST THEN MOVE ON!"
• "KNOW WHERE YOU STAND!"

"There are many ways to kill a cat."
This one (M. M. M.) works!  
although it is true that others are not palatable to the MMM principle,
yet once this is embraced --- IT WORKS!  It has to work for you!  WHY?  See the reasons below:

• MMM glorifies God.  Word Based!
• MMM waits on God.  Trust Oriented!
• MMM is God-Centered.  Worship Inspired!
• MMM is freeing as you yield to it.   Liberation Giver! 
• MMM is God’s order.   Priority Centered!

Especially for those who believe it and lives it. 

• One thing is SURE:  It's far more EXCITING and REWARDING.
• It is a life of faith, purity and expectancy with your Father who knows best."

The best time to "select" a mate is before you "fall in love".

• "FALLING IN LOVE"  is an infatuation!
• ROMANCE BASED emotions is infatuation!

INFATUATION hates to be told to:
                                           (1)  Wait
                                           (2)  Separates!
                                           (3)  Not to touch!
                                           (4)  Not to flirt!
                                           (5)  Not to fantasize!
                                           (6)  Not to be possessive!
                                           (7)  RELEASE!
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The MATE Life ...
BEFORE JUMPING TO THIS KIND OF LOVE (EROS), WE NEED TO HAVE A GOOD              UNDERSTANDING OF THE FOLLOWING:

(1)  The HOME Life

       --  Important basic institution in any society.
       --  God made this and gave His blessings upon it.
       --  The devil wants to destroy this (thru divorce and separation;  adultery and affairs;  dryness)
       --  It must start within the MARRIAGE BOND (a life-time of commitment; we have to see it the way God sees it;  we must aspire for a fruitful family for the glory of God;  you have to see yourself as being spiritually productive and not just another "Love Team".  Your marriage relationship should  reflect Jesus and that of the Church!
       --  Honoring of Parents should be there (Jesus  himself was born in a home, with parents and with
            commitments to teach other)  Luke 2:51 — Jesus knew his mission and was committed to      submission.

(2)  The Gift of SEX

      --  It is not evil in itself.
      --  Sex drives are normal and has a purpose.  This is such a  Big Powerful monster that if not tamed, may lead us into ruins.  We have to therefore be cautious, be on our guard always and seek ways on how to understand this thing inside to us -- called emotional drives.
      --  A very poor foundation to build a happy marriage.  For it fluctuates and is erratic.
      --  A gift from God that should be used only within the bonds of marriage.  PREMARITAL SEX should not be given any room!  Petting, Necking, Kissing and the like.  If not handled properly and      submitted to God,  the following will happen again and again:  teen age pregnancy; abortions; unwanted babies; single parents;  spread of venereal diseases -- AIDS;  prostitution; bondage to pornography; loose alternative lifestyles.
      --  We have a poor value education about SEX in schools. (Relationships - Parenting - Holiness & Purity)

(3)  The BOY & GIRL RELATIONSHIP

= God created man and found out that "it is not good for a man to be alone" = he needs a suitable helper.
= This will have its time in our lives. 
= God knows our needs and if He is  our Father, He will provide us our needs.  (Although we should not miss the importance of the Gift of Celibacy. "One single lady said:  as long as God wants me single that's no problem with me.  It is better that way than to live without the blessing of God".
This  Boy-Girl relationship is normal and are experienced by BOTH:  Girls usually earlier than boys.
    

The BENEFITS of WAITING:
IF WE WAIT, WE DON'T HAVE TO GO THROUGH THESE THINGS:
    - possession of a person
              - freedom restricted (both parties)
              - fear of loss
              - giving in due to fear of loss (base 1, 2, 3, .. Home run!)
                - PRE-MARITAL SEX?
              - bitterness and deep hurt after loss
                    "Count it all to experience" -- NO!  I want my memories to be filled
                         with joy living in the presence and grace of God”

WHY SOME Could NOT Wait? 
WHY DO they SEE it to be a NEED?
   

• PEER PRESSURE (want to be accepted; insecurity; fear; teasing; cover-up)
• WORLD’s  VALUE  SYSTEM  (Advertisement; fashion; encouraged all over)

             notice the SONGS composed and sung
             A MONTH IS DEDICATED TO THAT!  February!  as if, if you do not celebrate it theres' something wrong with you.  Ways to celebrate and not to celebrate.

• BODY DRIVES ( changes in our body; experimentation; curiosity; urges not controlled)

• GAP NEEDS (emptiness)
• NO VISION (delayed gratification because of HONOR)
• OVERCOME by IMMATURE LOVE (puppy love)

(4)  THE LORDSHIP OF JESUS CHRIST
     *  This is the most important thing that we have to consider first before   
         entering into anything in our FUTURE LIFE (Salvation; Vocation; Motivation, Emotions)

When is the best time for you to have a mate?

• After knowing the Master as Lord of all; Provider;  Soveriegn; Faithful and True; and knowing His mission for us (our purpose).

"BELIEVE THAT GOD IS A LITTLE WISER THAN YOU ARE!"
"FINISH THE FIRST THINGS FIRST THEN MOVE ON!"
"KNOWING WHERE YOU STAND!"

"There are many ways to kill a cat,
This one works too;
To those who believe it and lives it,
One thing is SURE: It's more EXCITING and REWARDING."

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Master Mission Mate principle
I call this ORIGINAL LOVE coz its patterned from 
the Book of Genesis (my opinion -- PASTOR JR)

• a principle EMBRACED by many.
• a principle CHALLENGED by some.
• a principle APPLIED to gain freedom.
• a principle many calls OLD FASHIONED (and it is true), BUT WORKS!
• a principle that PROVIDES LESS Head-aches, Stomach-aches and Heart-aches!

introduction:

Master, Mission, Mate is all about RELATIONSHIPS. 
Relationships that should be established for a life that is in the will of our Father God. 

Like Adam the first man, he had

• a MASTER to follow,
• a MISSION to do 
• then came the MATE that was given by God for him to enjoy.

“Then God said, "Let us make man in our image, in our likeness, and let them rule over the fish of the sea and the birds of the air, over the livestock, over all the earth, and over all the creatures that move along the ground."  (Genesis 1:26)

 “The LORD God took the man and put him in the Garden of Eden to work it and take care of it.  And the LORD God commanded the man, "You are free to eat from any tree in the garden;  but you must not eat from the tree of the knowledge of good and evil, for when you eat of it you will surely die." 

The LORD God said, "It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him."
Now the LORD God had formed out of the ground all the beasts of the field and all the birds of the air. He brought them to the man to see what he would name them; and whatever the man called each living creature, that was its name.  So the man gave names to all the livestock, the birds of the air and all the beasts of the field.  But for Adam no suitable helper was found.  So the LORD God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep; and while he was sleeping, he took one of the man's ribs and closed up the place with flesh.
Then the LORD God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought         her to the man.      The man said, "This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called 'woman,' for she was taken out of man." For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh.  The man and his wife were both naked,  and they felt no shame.”  (Genesis 2:15-25)

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At the time we were BORN AGAIN, we are fully restored to the plan of God for fullness in Him. 
We have a new MASTER!  A new Mission and a lot of surprises in stored for us. 
God truly cares and BLESSES His children so abundantly! 
This is His PERFECT will for you and me.

Thoughts from GENESIS 1:26, 2:15-25

Adam had a MASTER
       -- Adam was Created by God (in His image and likeness)
       -- Adam had Fellowship with God (talking & walking together)
       -- Adam was under His Command and Control (obedience expected)

Adam did his MISSION
       -- There was a Responsibility Given (put in the garden to work and care for it)
       -- There was a Garden to Tend (a territory to take responsibility of)
       -- There were Animals to Name and Control (that was its name as Adam called each one)

Adam was blessed by a MATE from God
       -- This was God's Idea (not good for a man to be alone, although awful for a ‘boy’ and ‘girl’ to be alone)

            Remember the 7 B’s
            Books Before Boys Because Boys Bring Babies
  
       -- This was God's Gift (God made Adam “sleep” and made a partner for him)
       -- This was God's Blessing (Go and multiply was said after the blessing)


A Review:  “MASTER” 101

1. Who is really in absolute control?
2. Is He King?  Lord?  Over-all our desires and wishes?
3. Is He Supreme and sovereign over our lives?
4. Are you His Disciple all the way?
5. Are you totally dependent on Him?
6. Do you believe that God has promises and wants the best for you?
7. Do you believe that God has a plan for your  life?
8. Who is Number One in your life? 

A Review:  “MISSION” 101  

1. Do you understand that you are Under a Calling?
2. Do you know that you have a Vocation?  
3. A Work to do?
4. A Purpose to Fulfill?

Notice:   
    = Adam was placed in the garden to work and care for it.
    = Since you are already saved God would like to use you to be His representative. 
                    (ambassador, light, salt)
    = God is an active God and wants an active powerful church! 
    = We are to advance God’s kingdom in every heart, nation, educational system, government         and places of the world — we are to preach the gospel to all creation. 
    = We are to make a difference — turn the world up-side-down. 
    = We are to create “RIOTS” (righteous invasion of truth). 
    = Ask:  Am I a God-pleaser or man-pleaser?


A Review “MATE” 101 
This NEED has convinced God because He made us as Relational beings … therefore we need people!
This specific NEED is to be MET by God Himself!
That’s why we get married at the Altar … for those who cannot wait … they may be married in a ____________?
God wants the best for you. 
God the Father, Knows best. 
This is the very thing the devil would like to withhold from you. 



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The Mate LIFE (Part 2 of 3) COMING SOON!
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NOTE:
The Master Mission Mate principle is the life of Pastor JR and Trixie.
This is being shared to our young people at YX and also dedicated to all young people and singles.  They are encouraged to heed this principle and apply this for successful, character filled and patient leadership especially among STUDENTS and YOUNG PROFESSIONALS.
ANOTHER VERSION OF MMM is called "Master-Mate-Mission" designed for people who are with families already.  Notice MASTER - MATE - MISSION and not MASTER - MISSION - MATE. Family comes first when you are already MARRIED.  Yet MISSION comes first if you AIN'T!

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